How to become straight if your gay
How Do I Help My Gay Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How do I help my gay friend?” This is a question we listento constantly in the Living Expect office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago limited Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of same gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this doubt is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues. So how does one help a gay-identified companion or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend know Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attem
How To Come Out As Gay &#; 6 Phases From The Experts
Contents
1. Coming Out To Yourself
2. Coming Out To Friends
3. Coming Out To Family
4. Coming Out Across Identities
5. Reconciling Sexuality and Spirituality
5. Letting People See You As Queer
6. Reclaiming Your Desires
7. Continuing to Live Openly
8. Assessing Safety and Support
9. Finding Back and Community
Coming out might just be the hardest, yet most rewarding thing you’ll ever verb. It surely was for me, on both accounts.
As I demonstrate back on that 22 year-old who made the bold decision to tell his parents, I realize that I was doing something more profound than just uttering important words to my folks. I was shifting the trajectory of my life, playing the lead role in my own life’s tale. I was allowing my authenticity to blossom. And much like a noun, my blossoming happened in phases. I hear these coming out phases echoing in queer people’s lives every day. Learn about sexuality counseling here!
1. Coming Out To Yourself
Coming out to ourselves is a big step in hone
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Some Gays Can Go Straight, Analyze Says
May 9 -- Can gay men and women become heterosexual?
A controversial new study says yes — if they really wish to. Critics, though, say the study's subjects may be deluding themselves and that the subject group was scientifically invalid because many of them were referred by anti-gay religious groups.
Dr. Robert Spitzer, a psychiatry professor at Columbia University, said he began his study as a skeptic — believing, as major mental health organizations do, that sexual orientation cannot be changed, and attempts to do so can even cause harm.
But Spitzer's analyze, which has not yet been published or reviewed, seems to indicate otherwise. Spitzer says he spoke to men and 57 women who say they changed their orientation from gay to straight, and concluded that 66 percent of the men and 44 percent of women reached what he called good heterosexual functioning — a sustained, loving heterosexual relationship within the past year and getting enough passionate satisfaction to rate at least a seven on a gesture scale.
He said those who changed